Tuesday, May 30, 2006

QBQ, part 5

In a previous post, I said that I would be reviewing "QBQ: The Question Behind the Question" by John G. Miller and this is the fourth of the series.

I am the world’s worst for procrastination. I put off everything to the last minute. In the book, John G. Miller expresses this as a “When” question. “When” questions mean that you are waiting for somebody else to take responsibility to improve the situation instead of taking responsibility yourself.

When will management hire someone to help?
When will my kids start to obey?
When will somebody do something?

If we spend all of our time waiting for the right conditions or for someone else to do something, nothing would ever get done.

As I have stated before, you cannot control anyone but yourself in any given situation, and you may not be in a position to change the existing circumstance, but you are able to choose how you approach the problem and improve what you can. What can I do at this moment? Can I make a plan? Can I get the ball rolling?

There are two reasons not to let “When” dominate your thinking: 1) any progress is progress and 2) small problems grow into large problems given enough time.

I was having a discussion with my wife on getting some things done around the house this weekend when the realization that there wasn’t enough time to complete the one of tasks at hand. I had two options: do nothing or get as much done as possible. We chose to do as much as possible. Any progress is progress.

Choosing to ignore problems they will most assuredly allow them to grow into larger problems. This is why fixing a leaky faucet quickly or early detection screenings for cancer are so important. It’s easier to put things off, but it’s responsible to take care of them now.

When will somebody do something?

The time is now and the somebody is you.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like what you said about small problems becoming big problems. It is quite true. Small indiscretions become life altering crises. "Innocent" exchanges become damaging cancers to home, family, and life. Whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely..think on these things. The book says to take responsibility for your actions. I wish more people, including myself, actually did that. It's a selfish generation that puts its needs and desires above others and justifies itself in its wrongdoing. The victim mentality that says its always someone else's fault. At the end of our days we will stand and be completely accountable for every word, every thought, every deed. All that we think is secret will be made known and justifications and victimizations won't save us. Only complete acceptance and responsibility for our own hearts and actions will matter. It really doesn't matter what the "why" is - at the end of the day we have a choice and only we can make it.

1:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That has truth all over it, anonymous!

1:08 AM  

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